My beloved died last night. Please remember him, please miss him. So much to and for so many.
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I will never forget him. I love him, and I love you. And I will so miss him, I have been missing him already this long year. I miss you, too. All my support and strength I send to you.
Oh, I’m so sorry. He was a fun, witty, delightful man. The world has dimmed.
Love to you, love to you.
Dear Jane…Martyn and I are both saddened by R’s passing. We loved getting together with you both each time we came back home…ah, the Ivar’s feast. ;-) So much love to you from us. We will always remember R with fondness and love.
I think it would be near impossible for me to forget him. He has done so much for so many. I was lucky to know him. My heart and hugs are with you and the family.
we don’t know each other, but i’ve thought about you over the past several months. i work with victor and have followed this blog, hoping to read that his son’s condition would improve. i have been amazed and inspired by you and your husband’s tremendous courage. i cannot imagine the pain of losing your life partner, much less of losing a child. but i am so glad to know that you, victor, and family had the privilege of being with r when he passed. my best to you.
Ah, J… I feel so privileged to have known R–especially to have known you and R together. R was so funny, bright, generous and BRAVE. And the love you two have for each other just shined, glowed. It was a joy to be in the presence of that. I will miss him and remember him always. I’ve been thinking of you both and aching so much these last days and weeks. Please, PLEASE don’t hesitate to call on me or any of us who loved you and him if you need ANYTHING–even just to talk or whatever. Love you, my dear…
J, I’m so saddened to hear this :( You guys were such an amazing support for me these past few months, despite your own trials, and that’s something I will never forget. I will R SO MUCH. If you need anything I’m just a phone call/e-mail away.
I don’t even know what to say.
I can’t even begin to understand your loss. But my thoughts are with you and you can rest assured that Ross will never be forgotten. I will miss his wit and his humor. I never did have a good comeback for his jokes, something I admired about him greatly.
Really sorry to hear this. I will of course remember and talk about my memories of R to all who will listen, and can honestly say I have nothing but good memories of him, and you both. I know everyone is saying it, but seriously, I’m only a phonecall/email away, so please let me know if I can do anything. I’ll be thinking of you both.
I’m so very sorry. I admired R greatly and I will never forget him. I’m thinking about the both of you and consider myself privileged to have known him. Please call or email me if you need anything at all. Much love. Rachel
Huge hugs and love coming your way, J. I can’t even imagine how difficult this past year has been. I’m deeply sorry. I admire you and R for your humor and strength and love for each other. R will be missed and not forgotten.
Although I did not get to watch R grow up, I too feel the loss, as a friend of his Mom and Dad, his grandmother and aunt, and remembering him when he was about 3 or 4 years old. Through this blog I have had a glimpse of the adult R, that he grew into huge courage, strength and determination, and a wry sense of humour. I was struck by his last words on the blog, grasping his intent in “thank you for the fish”, a symbol through which he wryly expressed that even though he wasn’t going to make it, he recognized and truly appreciated everyone’s support and efforts that they had joined with his, that he had not been alone in his “battle”. i think those last succinct words spoke of his acceptance and love. I have also been touched by his journey. Thank you for the blog
peace to you…this world is a better place for having been graced with r’s presence for an all too short period of time…i shall miss him and will ALWAYS remember him with fondness…may you get strength from the wonderful time you got to spend together
I am so sorry for the heartbreaking news of the loss in the world of someone so special as R. All my love to you and your families and community.
I miss my brother :(
I am Victor’s sister, Roxy. Although we have never met I have followed your experience on your blog. I read every word because we are connected even though unmet. I have wept many, many tears these last couple of days and my heart goes out to you, dear J. The passion that you and R had/have for each other is rare and wonderful and I could feel your total devotion to him through your posts. Your love is sacred and it will continue forever, even as you continue your life’s journey without his physical presence now. I pray for you to find an eventual peace amidst your grieving. R will NEVER be forgotten. I cannot help but draw the parallels to R and his namesake, another man of great courage, HUGE spirit and all too short life, not to mention very dry sense of humor. :-) Victor loved them both with all his heart. I remember R as a little boy when he came to visit us in Edmonton. He was angelic then…I can tell that that continued throughout his life. May God carry your heart in His bosom and breathe upon you His healing balm.
I have a stuffed animal owl I named after R 10 years ago. I doubt he ever knew that. He would have laughed for sure.
R will stay a part of my life in many ways and will always be remembered. I will always cherish my memories of him.
We do and will miss and remember him. For now the heart breaks and words do not come easily. Our best to you.
We will always remember R. We love him and miss him terrible. I wish there was more we could do.
Love never fails! I am a friend of Victor’s. Thank you for your sharing through your difficult time.
It is an honor and privilege to be R’s father. It was a privilege to share his last two days on earth. Watching him with his team and the love and respect they had for him brought tears of joy to my eyes.
I was there when he entered the world and I was privileged to be with him and J. as he left the world. I helped to comfort him when he was a baby and I helped to make him comfortable as he left the world. R will never be forgotten! I love you, son!!!
J, how are you? I’ve been thinking about you and hoping the pain isn’t too much to bear. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m in the group that will never forget R as he played a huge part in my life with everything he did for us online groupies. My thoughts are with you.
Oh J, I am so sad. I just learned about this yesterday. Why do old husks of people limp along for decades while someone so young and vibrant dies young?
I think I bought the owl for Laura when she fell in love with it at the LDS Hospital gift shop. It is a sweet way to remember R. Jim and I grieve with you. Please know that you are dearly loved.
that is strange, I was sure I had left a comment but tonight, as I grow older and entered a new year on wed, and while R was going thro’ his trials, I was saying, “Why him God? I am old and so full of pain, contstantly. I should be the one to go not one so young and vibrant. Why did he and J have to suffer so much?” Of course there was no answer.
Tonight our little student was talking to me how much she loved the harp and would like to learn to play some day, and I shared with her that when I was able (without tears) to share with her the movie of you and R playing your duet that time about 3 years ago, I would do it. Just now I came to the computer and for some reason I opened Cancer warriors, and cried thro the comments. then I got to the end where I should have put in a comment way back when (and thought I did) but the space was blank? ? ? ? sometimes I do not understand computers, but I just wanted you to know J, how much I care, and have been praying for you all htis long month, and, as I said, passed to another year last Wed and R is no longer with us. If you ever want to come and visit us we are not too far away. we will love you forever. Love and prayers Gramma B